I used to think coming up with resolutions was for chumps. Questions like: Why make a goal when you clearly know it’s bullshit from the beginning? If you thought it was so important, why didn’t you start it in the middle of last year? Why keep making the same resolution when you continue to fail? All great reasons not to make resolutions. Er, scratch that. All great excuses.
Maybe it’s me, but when did resolutions have to become so effing serious? Why can’t I resolve to have a good hair picture with a hunky lead singer? (No, it’s not on the list this year.) I think resolutions went down the crapper when people started to make them more important than they are. They’re goals. Something to strive for. Not life or death situations where you will be shamed to an island if it didn’t go according to plan. They could even be a couple of things from your bucket list that you’d like to chip away at instead of waiting until the last minute. (Holy shit, am I making bucket list references? OMG, I really am turning 40 this year.) They should be fun. Something meaningful to you. Not a standard where others can judge.
I will continue with my blog tradition to post my resolutions. There’s the off chance it might inspire someone else to pick it up this year. Try it out. Maybe even realize it’s not so scary. In fact, it’s kinda fun at the year’s end when you get to write the recap. So without further ado, here are my resolutions for 2014:
1. Write a great book.
You may have thought this was implied in previous years when I resolved to get an agent. I thought so too. What I’ve discovered is I can’t control the agent thing. I can work really hard, dedicate thousands of hours, and still not have representation. What I can work towards is writing an excellent book. It’s been a long time since I’ve completed a book. I’ve even started to doubt I can do it. This must be changed this year. With one draft half-way done and another book idea waiting to get out, I should be able to complete this. Let me note this isn’t “write a great draft.” This resolution is about taking the book from start to finish with edits, re-writes, critique partners, and more re-writes because those are the parts that make a great book.
2. Take a picture every day for the year.
My friend asked why I would try this and at first the answer was “for the fun of it”. When I really thought I about it, I realized what better way to combat my end-of-the-year pity party about not getting enough done if I had 365 pictures documenting all I’d accomplished with my time. Some days might be a little lame in the image, but other days might be excellent, like this one last year with Eric from the Limousines. (Love this picture.) If you want to follow along, find me on Instagram.
3. Break through doubt.
As you may have already read, I plan to schedule a blog every 5th of the month about breaking through doubts and insecurities. I’m not always good with schedules and I’m terrible at dealing with doubt. I’m hoping to challenge myself to better manage both in this resolution.
4. Send a cookie to The Airborne Toxic Event.
I’ve made lots of cookies about the band. Heck, I’ve even made the band, but I’ve yet to be able to send them one. Now this resolution doesn’t mean I’m going to hunt the members’ location, hold them down, and shove a cookie in their mouth. Nor does it mean showing up at a show with a cookie box in hand trying to find someone to unload them on. It’s more the idea of making a cookie they would want to have. So far I haven’t found the right one (though I thought I had it in the bag with Noah’s bass — my fave cookie). Maybe this year I will have better luck. If you have any ideas about what cookies would tempt TATE, please give me a heads up.
5. Host a Delish open house.
Another dream I’ve chased is owning a bakery named Delish with my bestie. Last year I certified my kitchen and opened for business. We took some jobs and created a solid menu. Now I need people to taste it. I’ve talked about throwing a sample party FOR-EV-AH but it’s yet to happen. Sounds like a lot of work. Bestie thinks it’s a little crazy. This year I’m moving forward and it’s happening. I’m not sure when, but it will happen. I’ll post the date when it’s decided so if you’re traveling in the Southern Oregon area, you can stop by.
I think I’ve set up some pretty good challenges for myself. None of them are easy and none of them have a life balancing on whether I complete it or not. This is what resolutions should look like. Because at the end of the year, when it’s all said and done, you’re the only one you have to answer to. And hopefully when you do, instead of berating yourself for not meeting the resolution, you’ll congratulate yourself and remember you’re a success because you were brave enough to try.
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” — Winston Churchill